My W is lying, but her perception of what happened is skewed enough to the point where she believes something that is not true to actually be true. So in that sense I feel for her - she's doing what she's doing because it is who she is at this point in time. I have empathy and compassion, but it doesn't change the facts.
One example: In the affadavit she stated that in the summer of 2008 I raised my hands as if to hit her during an argument we were having. I've never raised a hand to a woman in my life.
The subject actually came up in a telephone conversation we had today. She asked me if I was upset about the line in the order about having access to a gun. I told her no, the one that bothered me the most was the one about raising my hands as if to hit you. She said, "You probably don't remember it." I said very firmly and with absolute conviction, "I never raised my hand to you or any other woman in my entire life." Then she said, "Well maybe it was your hand gestures. Your hands were up in the air and you were yelling and I was intimidated by it."
Now if I hadn't known for certain that I never raised my hand to a woman she would have stuck to her original story. But since I know I never did, the incident could never have happened and she knew in her core that what I was saying was the ABSOLUTE truth. So she shifts over and changes it up. So what she wrote was not true and I called her on it...any leway in 'possiblity' and she'll dig in and hit below the belt.
Then I stopped the conversation and said, "This is neither here nor there. They're just words on a piece of paper to me now. It doesn't matter." And that's exactly how I felt.
We're still responsible for what we do.
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