WAW New life with OM

[25yearsmlc]

PP,

as hard as this is to accept, and it MAY NOT apply, but she does sound out of it. Yes it's "her" money and in her way of thinking, I can see why she'd say that. But honestly, just as a mom, even if you were a total jerk I can't see how she'd be fine with this choice.

So my point is that she doesn't sound healthy. MLCing big time. You need to buckle in for the long ride on the roller coaster, but I do think it'll pass. It's too out of character and too sudden...and she's a mother that was attentive and loving only a short time ago. Screaming MLC...

Does that mean you should sit and wait by the curb? No, You have to GAL and model for your children how a strong man handles a blow to the heart with dignity and character. Do all that you can for you and yours...but yeah, it's going to take more time and energy than you believe you have in you. Decide if you want to try, and with the number of years you have invested already, and the children, yes, I think it is. But I'm not you. It's your life.

But again, it'll take a lot of time. Pray hard and look within to see if you can stick by her "in sickness and in health" and we'll support you no matter what you choose. It's a tough road. I found the DB coaches very helpful in this.

FWIW, I met a very old woman the other day, in my neighborhood. She was married for 63 years, "56 of which were good ones...cuz 4 years were during a war and 3 years" her h was "a jerk from jerk town" (MLC??) but she waited it out somehow...and they were married another two decades. So it happens. I have two relatives who divorced and remarried a few years later. Both said the 2nd time around was better. That happens too. Try to keep the big picture in mind. This is a blip in time in the grand scheme of things...but a real test. And a painful one.
Take care of yourself my friend, seriously.

(( j ))