Steve, you're right. I have had a few minor setbacks and usually document those here, but in actuality, something has happened at the 4 month mark. I don't care like I used to. I get upset by things, but that's mainly memories and not reality at play.
It's weird - I feel that, as time passes, the LBS grows more confident in moving on and the WAS might spend more time in re-evaluating. My XW came by today to discuss a work issue. I could immediately tell she was hungry to talk. And indeed, she quickly turned the conversation towards her personal life with family. As usual, I was cordial and light. She sat down and looked for conversation topics. I shared some anecdotes that had happened over the last couple of months that touched upon our past life - new friends living in apartments old friends used to live in, etc. Caught her up on news from the friends in the old town we used to live in. Showed her pix, though a bit weird because they included a wedding pic in the same place we got married. She admitted she had an appointment, but didn't leave until she absolutely had to. In leaving, she said she'd like to see my thesis if I was willing to share.
And I felt ... nothing. I don't know why she acted like that, I don't know what she wants. Well, okay, she's trying to be friends, and she's clearly forgotten everything she said and did this past year. But I just don't see her in the same light anymore. I see her as someone incapable of sustaining a relationship, whether that be as friend or lover. And I guess I'm not so interested.
So that was good to get under my belt. Got feedback from program director on chap.1 of my thesis - A+, excellent, move on and consider this done! Of course, my advisor ultimately needs to sign off on it and haven't heard from him yet, but well on my way. I know I can do this.
