Jack, in some ways yes and in some ways no. It has made it calmer, but it certainly has not brought us closer together. In the beginning trying to force reality down her throat definitely did not work, it just set her in motion.If we had been alone I certainly would have said something to her. I don't think my daughter needs to hear it.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Jack, I obviously don't have alot to lose now. The papers have been signed. It is just a matter of weeks until it becomes final.She does need to understand the reality of divorce, the real reality.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I do have relatives who divorced only to remarry later. Hey, it happens. Took both relatives years...but it did happen and both marriages were reportedly happier the 2nd time around... AND yes I think you did the right thing not to say much in front of the daughter. But it is not likely that you'll be in the car like that again, thank God. Um, in my relatives case, I know once my uncle ran into aunt at a family function he point blank asked her if she was happier and she said "not really" and they reconciled... they had had to remain in contact due to the kids lives. But it was 5 years...
Just wanted to remind you that it can happen.
Sorry you are here...it sucks. ((( j )))
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
God kicked me in the butt today, focus on him, not on situation. All things are possible with Christ Jesus.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Even after almost 18months, I am still amazed at how much my heart can still hurt.I know I have to go through this to heal, but man it hurts.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Yeah, it still hurts but yet it does get manageable. You'll find the same old stuff won't keep pushing your buttons as much. Your pain is deep but not fatal and not eternal. You have partly healed and will continue to do so.
Back to an earlier point, this takes a lot longer than you imagine you can wait. But it is something you can choose to do. Lean on God, as you understand Him. I don't know another way to get thru this stuff. The pride that keeps some people from reaching out to God, often seems to be part of the reason they are here in the first place.
(( j ))
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Honestly, I know without the Lord, I would never have been able to get this far,it has been a learning experience.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Over the weekend I let my wife know that I have never stopped loving her. Her response was thank you. I figure I have nothing to lose this late in the game, and I wanted her to know that. I did not want to leave anything on the table.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Over the weekend I let my wife know that I have never stopped loving her. Her response was thank you. I figure I have nothing to lose this late in the game, and I wanted her to know that. I did not want to leave anything on the table.
