Trying to stay busy while I wait for the D papers. W hasn't initiated any D talk or pre-mediation negotiations, and I wonder, at times, if I should show my openness by initiating the conversation. Advice anyone???
Spent a little time this week laying out some of our household assets on paper so I can mentally prepare for the dividing up. I think it's helping me get ready for the separation of "stuff". Also spent some time looking at my finances with (estimated) full child support deducted - to see what kind of mortgage I can afford once the D is done.
It can't hurt to ask her if she'd like to discuss anything. She'll say yes, no, or F you.
You could mention to her that if you two can agree to everything beforehand, you'll end up paying less to the attorneys.
You sound like you're at the same point mentally as me. It used to be the worst nightmare. Now it's less scary. It's becoming a reality, & you're mentally adjusting, & preparing for a fresh start. Making the best of a sh!tty situation.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
