Song, my heart goes out to you. All I can say is to do what works. Whatever gets you positive results, you continue doing and when you don't get good results, you stop or pull back. But what ever you do, you have as much right to see your kids and to keep them just as much as she does. You have let her have her way and she is taking more and more advantage and using the kids as her tool. Whatever it takes, even a court order, I would do it before I became a stranger to my own children. Maybe that is why the child is having so many problems right now is b/c his daddy is not around and he doesn't understand why. Maybe she is saying negative things about you or the future in front of him. I don't know her. She may be telling him that daddy doesn't care anything about him anymore is why you aren't there. Who knows what a woman will stoop to in order to get her own way and have her kids all the time too? She would not be the first person to try to brainwash the children into believing the other parent did not care for them. I pray to God she is not like that! I think she is selfish and has issues that she needs help with. But, if I were you.....I would work at getting my children back at least 50% of the time and then worry about her. That is just my opinion for what it is worth.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!