Well, I think for the time being I'm going to stay put. I think her offering to "postpone" the divorce is her way of backing off a bit without having to take it completely off the table. Though I was all about the separation, due to the fact that she has offered more time herself, I'm going to hang on to that concept in case things get dire again. If I go now, I shoot my silver bullet. If I stay, I can try to DB from here.
I'm sorry that your house got broken into. I hope the damage wasn't too severe. You need to make sure that you're okay with all of that before tackling all of your relationship problems. It's easy to push everything else aside when trying to save your marriage (believe me, I've done it more than I'd like to admit), but something like that can have a serious effect on you, so please make sure you're taking care of yourself too.
As far as you moving out, if you think that is best then you should do it. But I can tell you that when my wife and I separated the first time, we did it all wrong. The only difference was that I slept somewhere else. When I moved back, we just picked up where we left off.
Be sure to reread the "last resort" technique in DR. It is going to be hard, but I personally think that it is the best way to do it. Check out the rest of the board. I know there are people here who have had a lot of success with it.
I imagine the hardest part of the "last resort" technique is knowing that it is a "last resort." Anxiety makes us want to cave and fall back into our old patterns. Just keep reminding yourself that your purpose in doing this is to change those patterns and this is the best way that you can see to do it.
Good luck. And don't forget to take care of yourself!
