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[lemonsnap]

As a guy I can tell you that just because your husband is saying that its over and that he doesn't want to work on it does not necessarily mean that its true. Men and women are different in the way we view things. As guys we tend to see everything as conflicts or obstacles. Conflicts and obstacles are things that are overcome or resolved. If we cannot see how we can overcome them or resolve them, immediately see them as failed or "lost." It may not be that your husband doesn't want to work it out, it may be that he cannot see how it can be and if the conflict cannot be resolved then he has failed or lost. If he feels the M has failed he will say that he has no interested in fixing it because he doesn't see how he can.

This is priceless. I really feel like this is the situation with my H. I feel like he doesn't know how to deal with our current situation, so it's better just to terminate it. It seems like he's being very black and white about the issue.

Thanks for sharing your viewpoint. It's really helpeful to me.