wanting to come home

[Snow White]

I believe today will be the day I will talk to OM and let the other side no I know

Hi Dwarf,

I see that the title of your thread is "Wanting to come home" Obviously we are in the infidelity forum, and there is a lot of discussion about affairs and the exposure of them. In your opinion the "OM" that you are referring to, in any way does he impact anything that has happened in your marriage? I mean, is he responsible for the breakdown of the marriage, the ensuing fall out or in your wife's current stance not to let you come home?

Do you actually believe that there is an affair going on, or do you just want to not be the only bad guy? As Kat stated, what is your goal?

Sometimes I wish my W would have used some of the advice she got here and stuck with it. There were a few times she did the opposite of that and it made me very upset and confused. Thats why im here to get the best advice I can cause I have no one to turn to right now in my life.

If you were to focus on the positive, did you see any changes in your wife as a result of reading db and the advice she was given on these boards? If so, is there anything about those changes that you could apply to your current situation?

For example, when I got here I was depressed, not trying anything new, no self confidence, and a real doormat. I've worked on GALing, trying new stuff, got over the depression (with a lot of hard work and ADs), and worked on becoming a stronger, more self-confident person. Everybody has their own changes that they prob. need to make so of course yours will be different than mine. But just an example of the kind of stuff we try to work on. What kind of 180s and changes do you think you need? What are you doing for GALing this week? Karen

You are very lucky to have Karen posting to you she is a prime example of what DBing can do for YOU, when I was posting all the time I watched her progress into a stronger and more confident woman every single day until she reached the point she is at now.

Come back often and journal about how YOU are doing and what YOU are doing as far as GAL. I know loneliness is something, I struggle with a lot, and I am sure a lot of other posters do as well. Come back here often for support and read other's threads and offer them support as well, it helps you feel like you are not alone.

Take care and good luck.