How do you have such clear thoughts? I realized I do the same thing when I feel threatened by David's FF I withdraw and become not the person he enjoys spending time with.
So thank you for posting this so we can all see it!
I think it is so wonderful all the things your H is saying to you now!!! So great that you are finally getting the words to go with the actions!!!!!!!!!!
I have a question for you I know having read some of your threads at times you have dealt with issues that were yours and not really anything caused your H's actions. What my take is on how you handled them when it was repeat sorts of things is you just kept working on back talking your ASSumptions and logically thinking things through and sitting goals for yourself to work towards. Would that be what you would say?
I did a more of the same at the end of my visit yesterday. And just trying to find the best way to deal with OW thoughts.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
