I do spend way too much time thinking "What the hell is he thinking?"
It's pointless, trying to make sense of irrational behavior, it's impossible. Depression is the driving force behind all of this. Read, read, read. Follow snodderly's posts she is spot on with her advice.
This takes TIME.... lots of it, for you and him.
You have to take care of yourself. This will test your patience like never before. It will also make you a much better person if you allow it to.
