Shine like the star you are!

[sage]

Hud -- thanks for the book reqs. I appreciate them.

What do I really need from another FF that I shouldn't be able to get from my W and my MFs? Nothing but trouble as far as I 'm concerned.

So...I WILL get down a rathole for myself if I start thinking again "h can't have FFs" or whatever. I personally think that developing an intimate 1-on-1 relationship with a person of the opposite sex can cloud a m. sitch...so, I agree with that viewpoint.

But the quote above actually speaks directly to what I'm trying to say my 180 is...at the first inkling of h having a friendship (and I'm not saying an intimate friendship at this point) I completely panic, go into high anxiety mode and withdraw from my h. I get angry, scared, nervous, you name it. And aren't I then taking things away from h that he'll want to go seek somewhere else? Again, not to add to the simplicity but if I'm not laughing at his jokes, telling him funny stories, etc why wouldn't he want to spend more time with someone who is?

I absolutely see your point. My post was only about managing my behavior so that I'm not contributing a dimension that's gonna bite me in the A$$.

Sage