My D17 was 2 when I D'd her Dad. I had some very specific language put in the visitation agreement regarding a variety of subjects; No paramours present overnight when she was with him, can only take one week of vaca at a time until she was 5-years old and could handle being separated from me for that length of time, etc... I would think you could put something in. I'm not so worried about the going to Hawaii, as the little guy being separated for so long so young.
Who knows, though? If you and the STBX end up being able to agree on matters, and he is a strong presence in S1's (that looks cute!)life consistently, it might be okay. I'd certainly explore the options, though!
My two cents!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
