Interesting POV Hud.

I happen to think you're onto something. I KNOW that in these "enlightened" times, we are politically incorrect in believing there is any difference between FF's and MF's for either gender.

But in MY experience (and I've been the one to have closer MF's than CJ FF's) there is always this element of sexuality. Even with MF's I've known for 35 years!!!

These were the guys offering to give me "solace" when CJ was treating me badly and ready to leave!

That was certainly not the kind of support I received from my FF's!

Of course we both have couple pals, I consider lots of men to be friends, but not with the level of intimacy that I share with #1) CJ #2) my sister #3) my FF H.

I know that one of the most painful nights for me last year was when CJ went over to H's and stayed for most of the night...at the time she was very close friends to us BOTH and CJ was sharing intimate info with her too.

We ALL realized after that night that this dynamic just would NOT work out, and although it was CJ's loss (he does not have many confidantes) it did save us a lot of grief.

JMO

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