I was just reading your thread and I saw on one post that you said things got ugly. I'm having a dreadful experience right now. My H left three mos ago and found OW last month. He moved in with her and I just found out within the last couple of days.
Things have been very ugly since. He called me with her in the background screaming all sorts of lies he told her and he hurt me more than I care to admitt. We had to switch vehicles last night and she left a pair of perfume drenched underwear in the truck.
I know he's very angry with me right now so my goal is to back off completely and see what happens. She left her H for mine and she has a baby thats barely a year old. I think either she'll kick my H out for hers or my H will leave as soon as the lusty I'm in love w/ you beginning fades. Either way I give it about 4 mos if not less.
So far she's been everything my H detests. Pushy, vindictive, and trashy. He's finding out now.