Every one of us is different. We just can't generalise.

Some folks can't handle dealing with all this stuff in a confrontational way in the beginning and they need to grow and learn to depend on themselves....others need to hear it all and know what they are up against right from the first chance.....

There are no rights or wrongs in how one handles the situation once you know where you stand....although I do agree with puppy that the truth is ALWAYS the best route to go. What you do with the truth is the big question IMO. I always would want the chance to be told the truth....no-one has the right to with hold that from me, whether it be by out right lies or by ommission.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength