You will get more responses if you talk/post to others.
That right there 'backlash' one of the better signs of MLC, which while sucks, is far better than having a spouse that is done with you, fully and completely.
Here is the deal. I wasn't joking about posting to other people to get a support group and friends going. You really should do that. Not doing that sort of tells me you don't think you need to work at this, that people should cater to you, which means...on some level you feel this way about your husband.
Work on changing yourself, find the things you simply do not like about yourself, and work to making yourself better by getting rid of those things. More often than not, those things you do not like about yourself...neither does your husband. You don't change for him, you change for you and doing that, the changes stick and aren't a trick to get him back. He will notice, but not if you point the changes out to him.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
