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[Helpers]

Hi Helpers,
How are you doing?

I've found that my H and I have had a hard time the last two weeks interacting "normally." Given the stress we're both under due to this situation, and the avoidance of R talks, it can make being in the same apartment awkward.

I found that getting out and doing independent activities really helps. So does having a project to work on - even if it's in the other room. If you do want to interact with your W, you're on the right track - things that don't require a lot of conversation can be helpful. We've been watching lots of movies together, doing sports, going out with friends (so we can be in a group together but interact with others), etc.

What are activities that you both used to really enjoy doing together?

What are activities that you or W have always wanted to try?

Maybe those are some things to focus on.

I've found in the last week that it really helps to have a "Plan" for what you'll be doing - especially in the evenings.

Thank you Lemonsnap,

This is really good advice. I will definitely take it. The plan tonight will be TV (she's normally tired from a full week and falls asleep early).

Saturday - Chores, out of the house during the day and a movie at night or ice skating.

Sunday - Gym in the morning, and relaxing on Sunday (I should probably fill in Sunday afternoon with something that doesn't leave us wandering the apartment).

Thank you for the tip, it will certainly help my weekend.