The bank transfer failed again – I will leave a check for a portion of it on Saturday while I try to figure out what is wrong.
Still thinking about being here or not, now leaning toward not.
Puppy & Gucci, what are your thoughts on this?
I'd vote for "Not." I still don't trust him on the money thing, and I'm just wondering if he's somehow stalling giving you what he committed to give you until he has a chance to have some big DISCUSSION with you. Even now, he's only committing to a "portion" . . . why? If the transfer was supposedly executed, he was prepared to give all of it to you, right?
Smells fishy to me. Then again, I'm the board's resident EVERYTHING-smells-fishy guy.
Talking to xBF's coworker/my friend. Another person in the office knows about the A and says it's getting more obvious. They went out drinking after bowling on Wednesday and were very friendly with each other.
So that was Wednesday and yesterday he sends me that email?
WHATEVER!!
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If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Yeah, that's what my friend was saying when she told me - cake eating. The thing is that he was already doing that when he was still living at home. And I proved to him that I knew all about what/when/where he was with OW. But he thinks he can still be with her while asking if there's a chance for us without me knowing he's still having an A???
I'm angry all over again. Why does he continue to treat me like I'm stupid? That's so offensive.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
The bank transfer failed again – I will leave a check for a portion of it on Saturday while I try to figure out what is wrong.
Still thinking about being here or not, now leaning toward not.
Puppy & Gucci, what are your thoughts on this?
Be gone and out and about. Take whatever money he brings and cash it asap.
Get centered again. HE is the one that is being stupid here. It is as plain as the nose on your face.
Life is good. Who needs it. She can have him. Doing to her what he did to you............ once a liar... once a cheater....
Leave some "jealousy" evidence for him to snoop and see while you are out..... (empty wine bottle in the trash and two wine glasses left in the sink along with some other misc. dishes... a sticky note on the fridge or a note on the calendar in your handwriting that has a man's first name followed by a phone number.... "Gooch 555-1212"......)
Play HIM for the fool now....
Take charge. HE is the one now chasing you and you don't even see it. Turn up the heat... He wants to chase... LET HIM... He can't chase if you are not moving away from him now can he?
Don't want to be too much into your business, but why can't he leave a check for all your part?
Second, I go back to wuestions like, why were you here? what were your goals? did you achieve your goals? how would being there or starting with him fit into your goals? if you changed your goals what were the reasons you changed them? what are your feelings and how do they translate into your goals at this time? What would you change about your goals now? what questions would you present to him? what would your expectations be? Just some things to think about that may help you to locate a answer you can live with.
It took me awhile to catch up since last night. The anger is good. I'm in it now too. I know it's not healthy to stay angry for too long but it's a necessary stage and it gives back control.
You did well in decoding BF's words too and I would absolutely not be available to him anytime soon.
Stay strong girl and thanks also for your advice on my thread.
Have a fabulous weekend!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
