Hello my friends. I'll update you now and then look to answer individually to you and check in w/your sitches later.
First, my mother is in town and she's been doing an excellent job w/helping to clean and clear out the apartment. She is at home w/ D today and they are going through all of her clothes, toys and other "stuff" as the decided what to keep and what to pitch to help us w/the clutter. That is a HUGE help and D is super excited to be able to spend time w/"Grandma Washington."
For me, I'm tired, but doing ok. I haven't slept much this week as having someone around to help has energized me a bit. My mother being in town has helped me to get focused and back to work on the apartment, so as a result, I've been up later and still have to get up early. Oh, well. The bright side is I've made it this far and can sleep in this weekend.
XW finally responded to my e-mail and to no one's surprised, she looked to turn in back on me. Here is what she wrote:
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If you think (D) is a victim, then you will treat her as such and establish in her the victim mentality. Don't perpetuate that cycle. She is not a victim and divorce does not have to be negative. It can be positive if you choose to see it and present it that way.
Have (the pension attorney)contact me.
I'm not sure what to respond, if anything, as of yet. There most likely won't be a reply, but I do find it interesting that she is claiming I have the victim mentality when I've never expressed that before. If I had to go Freudian on her, I'd say there is a bit of displacement and denial coming from XW. Her issues are being placed on to me. I find it interesting and sad.
On the other hand, she may have finally received my point and maybe, just maybe, the seeds have been planted that I won't allow her to attempt to emotionally blackmail me anymore.
For now, I'm just looking forward to the last 1 1/2 hours of the day going by so I can concentrate on putting the wraps on this week and heading home.
I'll catch up w/everyone either later today or this weekend...I've got to get back to tending to my study hall now as the bell is going to ring.
