Yep, same with me. My W's EA/PA started just as I was finishing up my project and starting to get back into my life. And the more I tried to engage my W, the further she backed away. Then about a month later she asked for a separation. At first I couldn't believe it. There I was giving her so much love and attention, and yet she was running away! Of course that was before I found out about the affair...
Which is EXACTLY why I'm in favor of gathering good intel at the beginning to find out what you're dealing with.
DB tells us to "not pursue" when a spouse is wayward. And I agree. So here's our friend Still Waters, trying to do what any good husband would do after having to spend so much time on a work project, and he's trying to pursue his wife and re-engage her more. As it turns out, it's exactly the OPPOSITE of what he SHOULD have been doing, but how is he supposed to know this???
For the life of me, I can't figure out why some people have such a hard time grasping that knowledge, and wisdom, and discernment, are GOOD things, and they help you know what to do, and what to pray about more specifically.
