Jeff is right, if your wife wanted out she would leave.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
If you do your research you will find that you wife is following a typical pattern.
There is usually a year of torment, the "shall I, shan't I seperate period" - Denial
Once the bomb has taken place, there is a period of elation, the nasty dead is over. - The singing, laughing and joking with the kids. As if everything is right with the world.
This is short lived. The replay starts in earnest, anything to make them feel better about themselves.
Usually taking up an excercise, joining a Gym, the Treadmill, changing appearance, hair style and colouring. New friends often younger or Divorced and seperated.
However, they are not quite strong enough to leave. That is one of the differences between a WAW and MLC. The WAW will leave, not look back, and you cannot see them for dust.
The MLCer hangs around until it is a "fait accompli".
On a couple of occassions I told my wife that she must feel like a caged animal, but if things were that bad, go!. Even suggested friends she could stay with until the house was sold, but no, she hung around making my life hell for a further 2 years.
Originally Posted By: graig54
if your wife wanted out she would leave.
Absolutely!
You may also want to check out the forum on Pathpartners.com. There are some brilliant threads. It is a site specifially for Women in MLC, and Husbands whose wives are in MLC.
Hi everyone, just checking in. No changes here. Have been living one day at a time. W is pretty much on the same path. I haven't seen any sign of OM yet. She shows no chinks in the armor. I'm still having weak days now and then. It's been almost 4 mo's and I was wondering if it is still possible to make it back from this ?
Ral, with God all things are possible, there is no timeline, keep working on yourself, don't focus on your wife, patience and strength.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Please don't say my wife back...please don't say my wife back...
What type of support do you need today?
BND - 5 years. Me - 3 years. others - years...
4 months...not so much. Like a gardner, what you plant today bears fruit...but not for some time. Plant GOOD seeds. The bad seeds...they are like weeds, they usually grow quicker spread faster and choke out the stuff you want.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Ral, forget about the timeline. Like Jack said, plant good seed.Listen to the warriors.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
