Not to blow smoke up Robx's butt or anything, but THIS kind of advice (and observations) is EXACTLY the "even keel" you've been needing!
I hope you're nice to him, and he sticks around your thread for awhile. Your temperament is such that you could really use his steady, wise counsel.
Puppy
Thanks bro, LOL! No it's not blowing smoke up my butt to acknowledge someone else's advice as valid, you share a decent amount of wisdom on this site, so if you noticed something I said as being applicable to noed's thread here, I appreciate it.
Noedphi, continue taking care of yourself, getting out, hooking up with friends, making friends, joining support groups, etc. There really is a ton of stuff to be done out there: search the newspapers and internet for local groups & activities that require little to no $$$ investment to participate in. You would be surprised as to how much stuff is actually available. Here's the catch, you may not like it at first, you may feel uncomfortable at first but getting out of your comfort zone is the first step in personal growth: experiencing the unknown is the only way to learn more about yourself and the ability to handle new situations & environments. I'm sure you have access to a library, get it in gear and head out to one and spend some time out there, they're may even be support groups for spouses that are recently separated/divorced/widowed - that's a great outlet for talking to people in similar situations and being exposed to a group dynamic that shares alot of the same problems & issues and help you deal with them through discussion & implementation of new skills & coping methods.
Just get out there and do it. Let us know how it's working out.
