Que Sera, Sera - Whatever Will Be, Will Be

[pearlharbr]

Hi Lemonsnap

Sounds like you're doing well. Glad you got some sleep! It helps a lot with getting a handle on all the emotions.

You are right not to tell him you are being friendly in hopes of retaining your M. In fact, you should not tell him anything about DBing or other things you're doing to save your M. This includes allowing him to see any books or this site. It will make him angry. Plus actions speak louder than words. You want to show H that you heard what he said and are acting accordingly.

I would encourage you to continue with IC even if your H is not interested in MC. I've never been to a C before and I'm finding it helpful to have a safe place to talk about things.

So tell me what you're doing to GAL (get a life). Do you have any fun activities planned for the weekend? I hear the weather's nice there right now.

Oh, and I wanted to tell you that we have a thread in the Walk-Away Spouse forum called DA Club (Detachers Anonymous) for support with detaching. Most people there are choosing the going dark/no contact route but we can also help you come up with ideas for detaching while still living together (my original sitch). We're a fun crowd these days so sometimes we're just over there hanging out.