180 when your mistake was abandoning

[lemonsnap]

Hi Helpers,
How are you doing?

I've found that my H and I have had a hard time the last two weeks interacting "normally." Given the stress we're both under due to this situation, and the avoidance of R talks, it can make being in the same apartment awkward.

I found that getting out and doing independent activities really helps. So does having a project to work on - even if it's in the other room. If you do want to interact with your W, you're on the right track - things that don't require a lot of conversation can be helpful. We've been watching lots of movies together, doing sports, going out with friends (so we can be in a group together but interact with others), etc.

What are activities that you both used to really enjoy doing together?

What are activities that you or W have always wanted to try?

Maybe those are some things to focus on.

I've found in the last week that it really helps to have a "Plan" for what you'll be doing - especially in the evenings.