I'm just looking for ways to make her realize that he's the short-fat-integrity-lacking dips**t that he is.
Or, should I just ignore it, like it doesn't bother me.
You make him look bad by being the better person.
Exactly! There is nothing that you can do, say, or write to her or him that is going to change or stop anything. Only your actions have a CHANCE at doing that. It is difficult to fathom, but it is the truth.
Anything that you do to try and bump him down a peg or two will probably actually elevate his status in her mind. "Manning up" isn't something you say or the demands you make, it is your actions.
