So here is my next premise......and it has more to do with a newbie and with doing this early on....there are many folks who really can't handle that fallout.
SG, I know you've brought this up to me before, but I'm either just not getting -- or maybe just not BUYING -- the distinction you're making with newbies. Why would someone new to their sitch be any LESS desiring of the truth, and the best available options (no matter which one they end up deciding upon) that are available to them?
If anything, what I hear over and over and over again on these boards from folks is something along the lines of "I wish I had known earlier on," or "I wish I had taken a firmer stance earlier on."
Couple that with the added destruction (emotional, financial, even health) that happens with every passing month of an affair, and why WOULDN'T you want to lay out all of the options for busting it as soon as possible for the newbies??
Different philosophies, I guess. I've never been a "you can't handle the truth" guy. Strong people can handle it, and weak people need to hear it.
