I just realized I called you Diane in that post. I was thinking of her at the time I guess.
I actually did teach music lessons for a time many years ago. I wasn't any good at it. Come to think of it I was a kid at the time. Besides I'm a bass player and the kids wanting to play guitar out number bass 10 to 1. Besides I know just a little bit of music theory. I'm self taught and play mostly by ear. Thanks for the suggestion though.
Yeah NMMNG calls dropping the rope "surrendering". I like that term a little better. It's letting go of the things that you can't control and changing the things that one can. "Letting go doesn't mean not caring or not trying. Letting go means letting be."
It is hard when you just want it to work with the partner that you already have.