Does anyone have recommendations on where to go to get advice? I'm pretty good about CYA and making sure I have documentation and evidence, but you never know.
The 1K I spent on a PI has (so far) come back to me 50 fold.
She knows I have SOMETHING on her, but she is not sure exactly what. The fact that she is so worried about it means that she must have been doing some pretty bad stuff that she doesn't want made public.
The great thing about this, if you think about it (and someone pointed it out to ME once), is that THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW.
So they have you assume, or at least be prepared for, the possibility that you know EVERYTHING.
When I had my "NO MORE DECEIT" re-confrontation with my wife, two months into her affair, we met in a parking lot at my request and I got into her car and sat in the "shotgun" seat. I had a large, manilla envelope with me, and I (rehearsed) tapped it lightly when I got to the part where I said "I had evidence" and that she needed to tell the truth to her parents and our adult daughters, or I was going to.
God only knows what she thought I had in there!!! The truth was, I had a stack of blank pages of paper in there.
All I had on her (and it was plenty) were voice recordings, which were inadmissable anyway.
Once, my voice recorder picked up her talking to OM and they actually thought I had photos from the time they hooked up at OM's friend's house. "Do you think he was outside the window???" Total paranoia -- and it was priceless.
