Wow Sage Thank you...Thank you! When you said:

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think I bring things up when we're out because I feel like I have a captive audience

I think I bring things up when things are going well because I get scared (it's "too good")

I think I bring things up when it's late at night because I hold it in as long as I can then kind of "explode".

I also stew on stuff for a while. In this case...while my comment WAS my reflecting on a feeling...TBH, it had also been brewing a bit...Brian's recent discovery that w was still in contact with OG had been on my mind. (not fair to h but true).

Why I bring things up at the start of a weekend is not clear...

All in all, I need to figure out how to initiate conversations with h at "better times". I think he's been trying to let me know that he IS willing to talk about things but would prefer different timing. I think I'd been stuck in the mode of him NOT being willing and therefore I think I'd been still feeling as though I needed to use "timing" to make an impact


You absolutely, positively spoke for ME too. I do exactly the same as you do. EXACTLY.
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