The "how to make sure this doesn't happen again" issue was one I brought up more than a few times, too.
His answer was that he would always be reminding himself that he never wanted to put me, or him, or our family through "this" again.
What I did with THAT statement was turn it around in my head so that it sounded like the deterant was just not to get CAUGHT at it.
Geeez...stinking thinking, huh?
What I really wanted to know is if he'd thought each step through, ever roadsign along the way to an A, every boundary crossed...and what he could have/would do differently.
Sage, don't you think H's like ours--the ones that go through all this and stay--working on their M's are far less likely than any other guy to do it again? Our fears are probably very disproportionate to the liklihood of our H's straying again.
I hadn't thought of the timing issue yet, until you brought it up....I'll have to watch to see if I'm doing some pattern that could be done in a better way. I have learned not to put Wolfie on the spot with questions--but just ask him to think about something and get back to me with his conclusions.
