Kass, you're getting good at this forum stuff aint ya?
Your H has lost control of you, it's a pathetic attempt to break you and make you feel sorry for him and go crawling back saying you are sorry and he really IS the one doing the work. I have seen that SO many times before. Treat it exactly as that. He is not trying to purposefully hurt you, it's a control thing.
You are in charge and he doesn't like it. I think the person from the church has it all wrong to suggest you copy his antics. Well done you for saying no to that. He isn't trying to disrespect the M, he is trying to belittle YOU. In his eyes, he has done SO much work and you haven't thrown your arms round him yet and told him how wonderful he is doing (which is what he will be expecting from you on at LEAST a daily basis) so he does what he thinks will make you notice, he tries to regain the upper hand. That aint worked though!
I would honestly prepare yourself for more of the same if you carry on being strong. He is the one floudering, he hasn't got a clue what you are doing, it's all new to him. You KNOW where you are going, you are going to where the sun is shining and right now, that is in the opposite direction from him. He doesn't know the way there, but only he can find it.
I would honestly carry on as you are, keep your ring on if you feel like, it as a sign (he will notice that, I doubt he will mention it, but he WILL see it) and continue to be as dark as possible. You stick to your path and leave him to try and follow if he wants to.
