Hi Rob, I looked you up because of your posts to someone else. As I was reading your last posts I was saying to myself "dear God I hope he didnt...paint her toe nails!!!". I was so glad you didnt.
Right now she is going to try everything in her power to see that needy look in your face again. Sadly, it is all standard procedure as you must have seen here on the boards. The moment the LBS starts to have a life and seperates their own happiness from the WAS, the WAS is looking back interested to know what happened. There was a great analogy once posted on this board, the picknik analogy. I will try to find it.
Anyway, one thing that I believe makes a difference, whatever you do, make sure you are calm and in "good spirit". It has to be clear that you are NOT acting the way you are (refusing her proposals etc etc ) because of anger or to punish her. It has to be clear you are acting this way because... you dont feel like it, because you have better things to do, because you have plans etc etc. So, try to be polite and as we say in greek "kill her with cotton". (In my case my H tested me for sometime, wanted to see if I was acting out of spite, I remember sometimes I would do something really caring like say "button up your coat, it's cold out there" with a sweet voice as he was dropping the kids off and he would be really shocked. It didnt match the vindictive -excuse me for my spelling- motive he was looking for).
Anyway, I think you are doing GREAT!!! Sandi is a veteran, she has your back covered. Take care K
I have read the Superior Man recently and actually suggested it to some of my male friends here. When he talks about women -as far as I am concerned- he knows what he is talking about. I love that book!
