I wouldn't worry about your W's feelings. Think of the OM's wife as your counterpart. Wouldn't you want to know? Also to maybe prevent it from happening again?

That's the say I see it. Forget your W's feelings.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER