I didn't even send up a smoke signal this time and here you are...
Holy spirit moment.
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I'll tell you a secret - I used to not buy all that humble pie crap.
Yep, I know what ya mean. I didn't either until I hit bottom, was ready to try anything. My pride still gets the better of me sometimes, but the best times for the people I love are when I'm humble.
Take care, I'll check back in when I need to. Ok, that kinda gave me the willies LOL - just teasing - but I did get a chill! Love ya!
You are very welcome. I know we have some mutual friends on the board, glad I finally got to "speak" with you myself.
Yep, I am a willing spirit and I truly hope a "teachable" one.
I have a friend whose husband is extremely religious. And when I get together with them, he often shares his deep beliefs. He can talk about them for hours. Many times I have listened with half an ear - too mired in my own muck and self pity to pay it much mind.
But the other week we were talking. And he was telling me about how God was helping him through this difficult time (his son has gotten involved with drugs). I asked him how he knew that God was helping him and that he wasnt helping himself.
He said, I gave it over to Him. I told Him that I trust Him and follow Him and that I know that He would allow to happen what should and whatever that was, I would accept.
A few days later, his son was arrested. Soon after, I went to visit my friend. Her h said to me, you see B, He helped. I said, but your s got arrested. He said, yes, and now my s realizes he has a problem. And today he came to me and said, Dad, I need some help.
For anyone trying to heal a broken marriage, this is how it's done. Healing is NOT going to happen in a week, or a month, or a year. It will take MANY years, and you will NEVER get "back" together,you will only move forward into something new. The sooner you can accept that reality, the sooner you can move forward and let go.
What an absolute wonderful wonderful post COG!
This especially stood out to me.....like.....almost a dejavu !
Damn Amy, did you catch all this??
Amazing
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Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
COG's random appearance and his post both tripped me out! And yes, the part you quoted mirrored the conversation you and I had earlier today.
Now I'm no rocket scientist but my guess is there is something significant in my sitch as far as emphasizing moving forward instead of going back. Seriously, I'd never once used that term to him before so Jeff probably never thought of anything except "getting back" together - the idea which of course would have been less than desirable for obvious reasons...but now his perception has been altered.
And how many times have I said to people here that you have to change your perception???
Anyway, I'll just keep pressin' on towards the mark.
You are very welcome. I know we have some mutual friends on the board, glad I finally got to "speak" with you myself.
Yep, I am a willing spirit and I truly hope a "teachable" one.
I have a friend whose husband is extremely religious. And when I get together with them, he often shares his deep beliefs. He can talk about them for hours. Many times I have listened with half an ear - too mired in my own muck and self pity to pay it much mind.
But the other week we were talking. And he was telling me about how God was helping him through this difficult time (his son has gotten involved with drugs). I asked him how he knew that God was helping him and that he wasnt helping himself.
He said, I gave it over to Him. I told Him that I trust Him and follow Him and that I know that He would allow to happen what should and whatever that was, I would accept.
A few days later, his son was arrested. Soon after, I went to visit my friend. Her h said to me, you see B, He helped. I said, but your s got arrested. He said, yes, and now my s realizes he has a problem. And today he came to me and said, Dad, I need some help.
To say it gave me pause is an understatement.
I hope and pray that I can find my way to Him.
Your friend's husband gets it.
You are looking and listening and I bet you've heard the scripture:
Seek and you shall find
So I have no doubt you will "get it" too!
Oh, remove the word "shall".
It was not in the original text. When the bible was translated, it was stuck in in an effort to clarify. Actually it takes away from the Word because it makes it seem like "finding" is something that is yet to come. You "shall" find it....when actually, if you are seeking, you already have.
I like the more absolute definition of "shall" that I have been taught in my law classes. I had a professor tell me, way back in one of my early classes--over 2 years ago--that the word shall means an absolute action, not a potential action. For example, "when dealing with domestic violence, an attorney shall encourage the abuse victim to seek a PPO." My interpretation is that an attorney should, but did not have to, encourage a client to seek the action. My professor said my interpretation was incorrect, that it means the attorney has an obligation to inform the client of their rights to a PPO. I know this is an off-topic explanation, but it was one that was brought back to my mind by your post. It is also something i needed refreshed in my mind.
So, in the scripture that you referenced, "Seek and you shall find" I have taken it to mean that the finding is a foregone conclusion, precipitated by the believer's choice to seek first. When they seek, they will find the answer. Does that mean they will like it--not always, but God's purpose will be clear and as it says in Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." The final result will ALWAYS be favorable for us, we just may not like the journey to get there.
Blessings, grace, and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
A Holy Spirit moment!! Amen, COG , after many months posted to me at time that was very much needed. God's wisdom simply floors me at times. Timing.
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LOL - just teasing - but I did get a chill! 
Love ya!