Okay,

I am really struggling with the going dark phase.

She txtd me this afternoon and asks me how my day was... Not about kids or money or anything like that. I don't want to be rude by ignoring her. but I think I am keeoing her comfortable and enabling the "I just want to be friends" routine.

About the same time she emailing some guy I don't know asking how his day was. Not the OM from her EA recently. Keep in mind she was checking out single guys on her MySpace search as late as last Friday night after I went to bed before I moved out the next day.

She is non-commital on keeping third parties out of our marriage as she see's if her feelings return during Sep.

Should I completely stop conversing with her in this manner if she is asking how my day went or other R type questions. I feel like she is reaching out to me because I am familiar but isn't doing anything to move back towards the R with me. In fact she is "trolling" other men.

I would appreciate male and female perspectives here. Is this a form of cake eating?

V


***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***

Me: 43
W: 38
SD-15
S(s): 12,9,7
Separated-2/14/2009
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