I don't know. Things haven't worked out for my M. Don't know that anything would have changed that though. My main regret is that I did put up with too much cra* for too long. I should have kicked him out sooner, since he was being so disrespectful and toxic really in his behavior. I think every sitch is prob. different. My guess would be a good way to go maybe is to DB for a period of time, but if things are worse, not better, go for the puppy approach. But I also think it took me a very long time to get the strength and self confidence to DB more puppy-style so that's a factor too.
Hey, SG, just wanted to say hi! also b/c haven't seen you around much. Miss ya! Karen
Hi...thanks! I obviously miss y'all too!
It goes to show there is no onesizefitsall advice.
I did miss something in puppy's descriptions...I didn't realize he gave the fetching mrs p some opportunities to end it first...and I think setting it up as a part of the consequences in advance, could be very effective. Of course, then you have to follow through, which is what many of you did.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
