When you put it that way... it reminds me of telling my boys that they needed to be patient on their new soccer teams. You have to earn your spot. They can't start you right away on a team that's played together consistently for years. You have to show them your skill is consistent, and growing.
Mom's Disease... Well, I can't stop being a Mom, but I can stop being JUST a Mom!
We're going to one of my best friends 40-year old bday parties this weekend. Time to be a date!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
H got home during the week last night (happens only 50% of the time). Made his favorite dinner. Had a lively dinner w/all three kids. I wanted/needed to go to a meeting/wine tasting, but told him I felt rude leaving when he's hardly ever home during the week. H told me to go ahead, and he would handle S12's basketball practice, and take a nap. He really wanted to rest anyhow. Go and have fun with your friends.
Called tonight to see what was up.
I'm only calling him 1x per day when he's traveling (lots of times he's calling me instead), handling more of the pesky stuff that he usually does at home, and remaining upbeat, dressed and "done" when he's home, etc... I keep wondering about new 180's, but after I read this, they are consistent, and not to be slighted. I just need to keep this up.
SIGH!
PS - My friend and I went to a sex toys store today to buy some gag gifts for our newly 40-year old friend. NOT a good place for a SEX STARVED WIFE! God! Everything looked appealing! I settled on a penis straw. Hahaha GOD! Could have been worse! And, do you know they have a display that takes up a whole section of the store for just BATTERIES! Wow. Experience is good, right? I've had it. I might go back. Someday!
Note: I parked around the corner at the Culver's as I have an identifiable car, and wore a baseball hat and sunglasses into and out of the store.
Last edited by mindblank; 02/20/0904:56 AM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
MB, you are a hoot, girl! I bet we would tear up a town if we went and got a beer and a shot together. And you with your new fantastic bra-hell we could even break a few hearts! LOL
You ROCK!
I know how hard it is to be patient and how tired you get of hearing it-so I won't say it...I will just quietly type it-<whisper> be patient...keep up the good work...you are doing great...
I'm laughing so hard I'm crying here... You'll love this...
D17 just came in my room... "Mom, I am so totally grossed out." Me, "Why? What's up D17?" D17, "Mom, I just went to get my college registration packet out of your office. What's up with the plastic penis on your desk?" Me, "Funny, it wasn't on my desk. It was in a bag in my drawer!" D17, "Oh, yea.. well, I guess I needed a pen, saw the bag, and had to look. Mom, that's gross. I can't believe 43 year-old women have any interest in looking at penis' still." Me, "D17, unless it's shriveled up, with grey hair, they still have some appeal. That's your life lesson of the day." D17, "Nice visual. Should I use this lesson for my 'Commitment in Marriage' religion research paper?" Me, "I think I'd stick to something a little more acceptable at a parochial school."
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Just read up on your sitch. I think you're in a pretty good position actually! Like others said before have patience. And when you think you're out of patience, you're gonna need some more. Time is on your side, but you need to keep up your good changes, your 180's. Consistency is key! You're doing great! Most important thing: don't forget to make yourself happy. All the things you do for him are great, but don't sacrifice yourself.
My W and I are sort of stuck in "friends" mode also. We're the best of friends, she even admits that. I just got a long email from her that confirms that she's noticed I have changed, likes the changes, but somehow her feelings have not changed.
Go back to the store, stock up on batteries and go to town-hehe!