Oops!!.......I think I've dropped the rope!!

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, [[[[[BM]]]]]

I always make the C appointments for the month and give them to H to put on his schedule and let me know if there is a conflict. This is because H and I alternate who is going to have the "two hour" (i.e. back to back sessions) with S17. That way we both have time in session with him. H is so busy with work, he doesn't have time to make the appointments himself and would probably sluff it off, but I think it's important for S17 that he stay involved so I do this, and then leave it to H to cancel if he needs to.

Also, S17 and I are going down to San Diego the end of March to pick up some of my Dad's stuff that my MIL has at her house. My dad died 2.5 years ago, but we flew down then and haven't been down there with the truck since then. We've always flown. We need to take the truck down there, so I let H know the dates, and I also told him if he wanted to see his Mom and help us do the driving, he was welcome to join us. As you see from the e-mail, he declined which I fully expected, and doesn't bother me a bit.

Guess what I also did.......I did a consultation with an Astrologer. It was really interesting. I asked if I was going to reconcile with my H and if so when.....I then provided her with the dates and times of our birth, and marriage, and some bare facts of my sitch......we are seperated.....didn't give her any specific history or issues in our M......This was her reply...

....Your husband was born on a new Moon. What that means is that the sun and moon were in the same spot in the sky. usually there is a lot of ingenuity with this configuration. In his case, the sun and moon are in Virgo. So when he goes off the deep end, he gets cold, critical and self-involved. Add sarcasm in too.

He has, had and will always have the lack of ability to understand where others come from, and inside if not verbalized he feels as if he is always right. If evolved to the highest level, Virgo tends to give and help others in their lives. negatively, it is the victim act.

Two years ago a very hard transit hit his Virgo planets and will continue until November 1, 2009. In a chart, the most important parts are the sun and moon, and to have this transit impact both of these is hard.

I doubt he has ever been an easy man but now he is close to impossible, depressed. He is a sad man.

You have a tendency because of where your sun and moon are to self-sabatoge. You say one thing but do another. In any case, if feeling good, and respectful, the two of you will encourage to grow.

Because of your transits, if he moved back in, it would not work. There is a possibility after Nov. 1, but only if both of you are doing some kind of therapy, like Imago therapy.

I am sorry this is not better news.....

He really is better single as he is too narcistic. The reason he is not filing is 2 fold. It prevents him from being cornered into another commitment and keeps you there in case he changes his mind.

I do not say there is no chance before Nov. 1, but it would not be worth it ultimately as you would become even more hurt. The best possibility is after Nov 1, 2009 . And then, i would insist on some Imago therapy. (it is specially for couples. One weekend workshop can turn a marriage around, if it is meant to be a marriage.)

The problem is you are not listening to him. he does not want to return. Start working on that basis. ..and start thinking about what you want. Start dating. Only then when he sees the potential loss will there possibly be a change in tune. Be honest with yourself too. How happy were you really?

I chatted back and forth with her a few times after her answer. She was really nice and before I left work, I told her that if she saw anything else really great in my chart, to feel free and tell me! When I got home tonight, there was another e-mail from her that said ....

....astrologically you will meet the love of your life in 2010, give or take a year each way. I just did the calculations.

Now, I have never been "into" astrology, but I have always found it interesting that the traits attributed to different birth signs are often eerily correct. And I did not just go on line and find any "astrologer". I had read my horoscope the other day in the local paper, and it was really spot on. Specifically used the word "detach" and said I would find better success when I did. So, I noted the astrologers name and then did some searching on her, and found several endorsments and nothing that said she was a quack. So, whether or not I fully believe in it, I feel comfortable that she believes it, and is "legitimate".

Anyway, as I said, it was interesting, and I am not sorry I did it.

Take it easy, BM!!