Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

Thanks KerryK, I think I'll take you up on your offer for the referral.

I am looking forward to the next two weeks. It will be the first time that I've seen my W since she left in November. My MIL says that she has mellowed out a lot lately and even has started sounding normal to her again. Of course, normal to me would be for her to abandon this fantasy and to come home to be with her family, but I digress..

Right now I am have a lot of optimism that this visit will go well. My kids are excited to have their mom back (even if only for 2 weeks) and I'm not planning any deep R discussions. We are going to do some fun family activities and go see some sights that we have never seen before. I'm shying away from repeating any of the activities that she and the OM did when he visited back in Sep and Oct.

I'm stymied too why she would leave her kids with me and walk away empty-handed. I always attributed that part to the EA and the fact that the OM was applying pressure for her to leave the kids and come to Germany with him. I even saw an e-mail he wrote her last Oct that basically told her that her kids were practically grown and they had their own life now (Our youngest is 12!) I don't know if the OM is still in the picture, but despite vehement denials, I believe he still is. This is why the next two weeks are so precious to me: it's OUR familys' turn!

I will definitely be watching and monitoring things. I'm committed to being upbeat and positive and following my best DB principles. I'll keep posting as to what happens.