Hi LMG - i am in the exact same spot as you. I had an A but chose to stay in M. H took years to decide he could not live with it, left in mid 2008 and took up with OW in Septish.
I amm devastated - anti depressants , sleeping tablets etc. Why i dont know. I dislike how he is treating this family, I dislike who he has become , everythiNg. So what am I grieving ? Who knows but it will be the exact same thing as you.
Is it because they are moving on without us ? We have no control over them ? they pipped us at the post ? What is it! I too was ok when H left, it was when the OW came on the scene that I spiralled out of control.
Thing is i know i am better than OW so it p%$#@# me off even more ! Kids refuse to meet her as well. I guess it is a time thing. I DEFINITLY will not go into any R until I am healed and I dont expect that to for some time. No way am i dumping on somene new even though I have heard that a rebound relationship can be good. Your experiance would suggest temporary feelings only.
