I didn't mean to downplay the cheating.We both have our faults.In one persons eyes lying about the bills can probably be just as upsetting as cheating.I personally think cheating is much worse.I have been seeing my counseler.The same one I saw years ago.I have been doing things to improve myself and keep busy.BTW the nice dinners are stopping.There's no need for me to cook for her when I get nothing in return.Time to go dark.