Thank you so much for the kind words! I am truly grateful at how my sitch continues to progress... *******************
Just journalling --
I had a meeting for my volunteer job last night and h spent the afternoon at school. We agreed to meet up at our favorite drink spot -- got there and it was closed! We haven't been having good luck going there AT ALL lately but we rallied and tried out a new spot...had a nice meal and a couple of beers.
Some positives: 1. h toasted "making the most of the minimal time we have together" -- this is GOOD STUFF! Our lives are changing SO MUCH and it's wonderful that he's focused on keeping our QT full of quality!
2. Well...you saw the email and all
3. Had lots of conversation with h yesterday -- email, phone calls, etc. I love hearing from him so often.
4. Got another date with him tomorrow night (we've got a reservations so I KNOW the restaurant is open!). and, we've got lots of good stuff over the weekend (Go Red Sox! Boo Yankees!)
It's a short day for me today but I'll check in with you all tonight...
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I have been following your posts for a little while, long before I decided to come over to piecing. I wanted to thank you for inspiring me to do just that.
It was actually something you said in your other thread that helped me make the move. You said,
Quote: I can HEAR h sharing his thoughts and feelings and love with me. What scares me a bit is how hard I have to listen to hear it ... NOT because he's not saying it clearly but because of the the cobwebs and noise in my brain (the ASSumptions, expecations, rampant thoughts, etc.). I'm working, working, working on brushing those aside.
That struck home with me because NOW that I have my H trying so hard to work his way back to our M, I have to admit to myself that I have been stuck in the endless search for any negatives or pitfalls that might present themselves to the point that I was continuing to over look all the positives he was doing.
Thank you for helping me to step back and make myself account for THE GOOD my H is doing as I continue to WATCH for the backslides. T2
Sorry to hear about your restaurant being closed. Monkey and I had a favorite restaurant in his town. It was a diner, open 24/7 and holidays. Had a wide variety on the menu so we could eat cheap or expensive..and it was all delicious.
With him moving to my town, that Diner will no longer be ours. We'll have to find a new one.
I know, I know this could be a good thing, new growth and all that!
Quoting Trying24now: That struck home with me because NOW that I have my H trying so hard to work his way back to our M, I have to admit to myself that I have been stuck in the endless search for any negatives or pitfalls that might present themselves to the point that I was continuing to over look all the positives he was doing.
Thank you for helping me to step back and make myself account for THE GOOD my H is doing as I continue to WATCH for the backslides. T2
Hey T2,
Glad to see you over here in Piecing! I've been lurking on your thread (here and in Newcomers, right?).
I'm delighted that you've found positives in my er, areas of growth.... (don't want to call them negatives!). I'm sure we'll help each other out on this bumpy path!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Hi sage, it has been a while. Good to see things are still slowly making progress for you. I don't know why, but yours is one of the cases that I always knew would end well eventually. And yes, it is not over yet, but there is so many good things going on, it is hard not to be optimistic. Thanks for checking up on me, I am doing well. Staying very busy, moving on with life.
I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much.
Gotta post one of my positives for today right now...'cause otherwise I'll forget it.
h just called me. He called to thank me for being so supportive of his law school and everything it's "added" to the m. He said he loved that we were good about scheduling time to have dates and such. He mentioned a woman that he met in school who takes the same train he does told him that her husband is not supportive at all of her going back to school.
The phone call made me feel really good. I think there was a time when I would have let my fears about change get in the way of my feeling excited for my h. I'm happy to say that's not true now...of course, it helps a GREAT deal that he is being so much more open and upfront with me about how he feels. It's good -- it's a two way street.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Quote: just called me. He called to thank me for being so supportive of his law school and everything it's "added" to the m. He said he loved that we were good about scheduling time to have dates and such. He mentioned a woman that he met in school who takes the same train he does told him that her husband is not supportive at all of her going back to school.
Sounds like your H is coming along, Sage, and that he feels comfortable enough saying these things to you. I have discovered with my W that she has trouble communicating these types of things to me, and I suspect it's the same for your H. As his comfort level grows, I'm sure he will continue to share even more positive thoughts with you...as well as his fears...thus giving you more opportunities to grow together...
