Sure I may come out a better me but to me thats second choice. Being with my W makes me a beter person.
Again focusing on the W instead of yourself! Has your wife suggested changes that she thinks you should make or you know she thinks you should make? Changes that would make you a healthier, happy person? Those are the kind of changes you need to work on. You won't be able to have a happy R with anyone until you make some changes most likely or you wouldn't be posting here.
For example, when I got here I was depressed, not trying anything new, no self confidence, and a real doormat. I've worked on GALing, trying new stuff, got over the depression (with a lot of hard work and ADs), and worked on becoming a stronger, more self-confident person. Everybody has their own changes that they prob. need to make so of course yours will be different than mine. But just an example of the kind of stuff we try to work on. What kind of 180s and changes do you think you need? What are you doing for GALing this week? Karen
