Yoyo~ congrats you finally came out swinging those 2x4s. Kudos long time coming.


Originally Posted By: Yoyowife

I must admit I went in the house very angry and emotional. H and I got in a very heated conversation. I told him that I was tired of his lies. I told everything in front of OW how he had been lying saying they weren't seeing each other and that's why I continued to see him. He tried to say I was lying. I gave her dates and times. He walked out of the room. She told me "I know he is lying. I knew something was up, just didn't know what. That's why I came over here."


Is this the yoyo that is usually meek and mild! H must have been shocked. It is about time that he becomes accountable. He has used up his love bank at this point.

Originally Posted By: Yoyowife

He got very angry and said some very hurtful things. He said he was with the OW. He kept telling me to leave, but I told him I would not leave until he admitted to his lies. He finally did. He apologized to both of us for all of the lies and knew he had hurt both of us very badly. I then walked out. I came to realize that OW was victim too. He had lied to her also.


STOP... liked this paragraph till OW is a victim too! She is not a victim, she is a homewrecker. A victim is one of rape. She raped your family of all common decency. So he lied to her. What should she expect with a cheate. Do not agree with that.

Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
He said, "I am so sorry, but you just kept pushing my buttons." I asked him if he was really in love with the OW. He said, "No, I just said that because I knew that was what you wanted to hear." I told him that I did not want to talk to him because he was not the man I had married.


Of course you are pushing his buttons. It is called accountability. Not used to you standing up for yourself. You must have taken your "supergirl pill"

Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
"It will be too hurtful to all 3 of us for you to work with him." She said, "You don't have to worry about me, I know he is a liar."


Of course she knows he a liar -- and a cheat...she lived it for 2 years and did not care about your feelings. Get MAD.

Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
We are still at an impasse. He doesn't want to fire her because he feels bad for her because she is supporting two children with one of them being in college. I hate to say it but in a way I do feel badly for her because of all the lies he told her too. I understand that how hard it would be for her to get another job. He still says that the pets, that the girls love so much, must go for him to come home. It seems to me he doesn't want to give, but expects a lot out of me and the girls.

You are too nice YOYO. . I know she has children and so do you. Your children have not had a full time father in 2 years. This OW knew what she was getting into. She is a secretary. That is one of the easiest jobs to get. There is still a demand. Your husband keeps saying what a great secretary she is; give her a letter of recommendation and send her on her way or give her a pink slip to collect. Do not feel sorry for the homewrecker. It is enough and it is time. Time for Plan B letter where YOU set the boundaries. If you want an example of this type of letter let me know. Main points in your case -- NC with OW and the pets stay! No more excuses that he can use for his bad behavior.

Very proud of you.


Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09