I have to ask you about one thing; the DR book. I think she knows I have it, (she saw it on the night stand when came by the house last week). Should I mention anything. Can I read it when she's around?
Would you leave your game plan out for the opposing team to read? Put it away where she will not likely look for it but you could refer to it when you need to. Do NOT read it in front of her. That would be a terrible mistake. Do NOT mention anything about the book. If she should bring up the fact she saw it and ask about it, just say that you have been doing quite a bit of reading lately and let it go at that. Remember that you don't always have to give an answer to every question she has. When in doubt....smile and say nothing. Don't lie, but you can be vague by being careful how you answer. If she asks to see it, tell her it is something just for you and not her. It may make her more curious and if she seeks it out, then so be it, but I would put it away and certainly never read it around her b/c that is putting pressure on her just by seeing the title of the book, plus it makes you appear "needy" reading it in front of her as if you are hinting. So, "no" to all your questions. I could have said that to begin with, but then that is Puppy's style and not Sandi's (LOL).
Your list of things on the "talk" seem to be good. I like your firmness and yet a touch of kindness (don't over-kill with appreciation for her moving back). If anyone has a better way of saying anything, Pup's your man to check with.
Good luck. Hope it goes well.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
