Puppy, I know you believe that all cheaters lie. And I understand why you feel that way.
But there comes a point for some cheaters, when they stop. Except for the affair, I am an honest person. No one doubts where they stand with me, and I have been accused of brutal honesty on more than one occasion.
My A days are over. I am not a liar anymore. But when you say that, it cuts to the core. I wish you could find a better way to say it...no, a nicer way to say it. But then it wouldn't be you, I know. Some of us have shed this stigma/label/stereotype and never want to return to it. What do you say about us?
Melissa
Melissa,
By that, I mean people who are CURRENTLY cheating. I believe in forgiveness, and redemption, and I believe that a FWAH/W can -- in time and with a solid transparency plan in place -- rebuild both their spouse's trust and their own believability.
It takes great courage to stare down your demons, turn away from them, and re-commit to your marriage, when it's already been damaged at your own hand. I have great admiration for FWAWs and FWAHs.
I've never yet seen someone actively IN an affair that didn't lie, usually repeatedly, in order to cover up their affair and accomplish their endgame. THAT is who I'm referring to.
