Hope4us, I have been detaching. At night I think of all the payback I would like to dish out and then by morning it dissapates. It is hard too working with H and the OW. Supposedly they are being investigated at work because he is her supervisor but nothing yet.
I can't understand how these WAS let the kids go too. I was just talking to D15 and she wants to go to a movie with a boy tomorrow. Usually she goes in a group but wants me to go to another movie and she will meet him there and I can "check on her". I said I wish I could talk to your father and discuss it; and she say angry "he doesn't live here anymore, I hate him and I hope he moves out of state, I don't care". How do you deal with that? Totally wounded. This is the same kid that she used to kid around with her father and he used to say "am I your hero" and she would say "yes" and were 2 peas in a pod.
I am going to let her go to the movies (she will be 16 in August), but it is difficult to make these decisions, I am truly alone. I never thought I would be a single parent. H doesn't know she has won all of their soccer games, that she got a goal last week -- nothing. I made an appt with a C today for her. I guess he will find out when he gets the insurance form. Hopefully your S16 will be able to rebuild the relationship with his M. It really changes the dynamics. My heart goes out to you.
Silver, I will try the thank you approach. I think about how it is said when you marry that 2 become 1. Now I feel as if 1/2 of me is gone. It is like I am grieving for my spouse if he had died. But he is here sharing his life with someone else. I am trying to overcome this pain. It is tough.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
