Screwed? nah. Maybe gun-shy? Perhaps it's time to leave a nice card for h? Or tell him ILY? (TBH, I didn't realize that you weren't saying that to him...or do you mean that you rarely say it?)
sure I could leave him a nice card...sure I could tell him I love him..sure I'd get a thank you or a reciporical ily...sorry I'm not playing that way.
h doesn't say ily...
if I do say it..wich I've stopped doing...he will say something like "I know you do" pause.."and I love you too"
I'm not interested in that crap...if he doesn't want to initiate saying it own his own then I'll just go without.