Shine like the star you are!

[sage]

I no longer allow myself to do them now...all the nice little cards I used to buy..now I don't...all the ily's I used to say...now I don't....am I screwed? I don't know.

Hey LL --

Screwed? nah. Maybe gun-shy? Perhaps it's time to leave a nice card for h? Or tell him ILY? (TBH, I didn't realize that you weren't saying that to him...or do you mean that you rarely say it?)

anyway....things really do sound like they are going well for you...it seems that when you put your fears asside and accept that most of the junk is your own (albeit a result of h's indiscretion in the past) you pull yourself up and seem to have a wonderful r with h.

Yup. We have come A LONG WAY BABY. And, to be fair, my fears and insecurities existed before h's straying. 'course, his a hasn't made it any easier to deal with them...

when I relax, stop the mind chatter, focus on the present, HEAR what h is "saying", well, all is well.

Sage